Through the corridors of uncertainty!

You think your life is headed in a certain direction, but it isn’t. You think you have made up your mind about everything, but you apparently haven’t. You think you have decided what you’ll do next, but you end up doing something else altogether. Nothing in life ever goes according to plan, and my world is a towering stack of uncertainties right now. 

Though I’m dealing with a lot more change than usual, the reality is that most of my days start and end with uncertainty, confusion and sometimes frustration. Even when you think you’ve curled into a cozy cocoon of predictability, anything could change in a heartbeat. The only constant in life is that it will involve change; and try as you may to control the future, you mostly cannot. All you can do is trust whatever happens is probably for the best and hope that you can adapt and make the best of it. 

Since I am straddling familiarity and the unknown, waiting to form some type of expectations for my future, I’ve been thinking a lot about dealing with uncertainty well. Though I’ve written before about embracing an uncertain future, I have a few more thoughts to add to the mix.

Certainty is actually an illusion. Think about it. Is there ever a time when you know for sure how things will unfold? Even with the best preparation, we can’t control everything in our life. And that sometimes, unnerves me to a large extent. I like to be in control of my life. I always like to know what I’m doing and where my life is headed. I don’t like the uncertainties that life throws at us at times. But we hardly have any control over it. There are never any guarantees, even when you think you have it all figured out. When you don’t know what the future will hold, you’re actually dealing with life as it always is: yours to live and create moment by moment, day by day.

All of us often wait for our own big break in life to make feel us feel complete. This allows us to believe that there is something good for us down the line. I think a lot of people have this illusion that someday everything will be okay. One day they’ll have the home, the relationship, the career, the status that they’ve always dreamt of, and from then on everything will be smooth sailing. This causes us to metaphorically hold our breath, waiting for that one moment when we’re finally able to be happy. I know that because I’ve indulged in this fantasy too. If we can accept, however, that things might never be perfect—that we’ll gain, and lose, and grow, and regress, and smile, and cry, and learn, and forget—we’ll be better able to embrace the present moment. We are all ever-changing works in progress, and so are the lives we lead.

No matter how much you’ve learnt or how strong you’ve become, on any given day you could allow your emotions to get the better of you. Applying knowledge never gets easy; it always takes strength, humility, and mindfulness to be truly present and to forge ahead despite your fears. What I’m trying to say is that the only sense of certainty we can probably experience in life is the result of our own efforts. And even though there are no guarantees, we at least have a few constants in our life that won’t change in the near future: our family and friends. Because at the end of the day, nothing matters without them. 

The most difficult part of uncertainty, at least for me, is the inability to plan and feel in control. I can’t possibly predict the future, but I can help create it by fostering positive feelings about the possibilities. I am constantly working on improving my coping and adapting skills. This isn’t the same as “expect the worst.” It’s more about assuring yourself that you can handle any difficulty that might come your way. When you obsess about a tomorrow you can’t control, you’re too busy judging what hasn’t happened yet to fully experience what’s happening right now. Instead of noticing and appreciating the beauty in the moment, you get trapped in a fear-driven thought cycle about the potential for discomfort down the line. I have forever stressed myself out about the past or the future and never really given myself a chance to enjoy the possibilities of the present. I know that the uncertainties of your future can keep you up at night, obsessing over ways to protect yourself from anything that might go wrong, or it can motivate you to practice acceptance, live in the moment, and embrace the adventure of living. What’s coming tomorrow might not be easy—or it might fulfill you in ways you couldn’t imagine. What’s certain is that it will come and when it gets here, you’ll respond to it, learn from it, and move into another tomorrow full of endless possibilities.

I am often apprehensive about change or anything that involves me getting out of my comfort zone. But this time, I have decided to step up and accept the change. They say that the path to success never makes perfect sense in the moment, but always comes full circle when looking back on it. I know I will be stepping into uncharted waters, but the unpredictability of an uncertain future is what will make it more interesting. 

Wish me luck!


2 thoughts on “Through the corridors of uncertainty!

  1. Rash, superb write-up! I loved where u have mentioned trust that whatever happens is for t best….it sure will! Wishing u the best of what life has to offer…anytime I am lil stuck in my thoughts abt few uncertainty I knw wht to come back n read n feel better…kudos to u!

    Love,
    Nats!

  2. Hey Rash, I noticed few things in your last paragraph where you are talking about stepping up and accepting the change, steeping into uncharted waters, so this is giving me some ideas… 😉 Could you be more specific? 😉

    Anyways, yeah I agree when you said you can't plan everything in your life… that's true! But just to add on to your thoughts, never lose hope, be confident, always follow your heart and life will definitely turn out to be beautiful…. 🙂 Trust me! 🙂

    Wishing you good luck always,
    Menaka